site: Negotiate (configurable) MTU

Calculate the inter-site mtu for each virtual link to a peer site, and
honour it.  This is the maximum of our desired mtu, and the peer's.

Here our desired MTU is normally our local kernel netlink mtu, but it
can be configured separately.

Extend MSG3/MSG4 optional data to contain an MTU advertisement.

The result is that overall it is possible to set an mtu-target which
is lower than the vpn's conventional mtu and expect shorter
on-the-wire packets to a particular site - provided that site's peers
are all upgraded.

In this patch we also update NOTES for the new protocol and README for
the new configuration option.

Signed-off-by: Ian Jackson <ijackson@chiark.greenend.org.uk>