core: rework logic to determine when we decide to add automatic deps for mounts

core: rework logic to determine when we decide to add automatic deps for mounts

This adds a concept of "extrinsic" mounts. If mounts are extrinsic we consider
them managed by something else and do not add automatic ordering against
umount.target, local-fs.target, remote-fs.target.

Extrinsic mounts are considered:

- All mounts if we are running in --user mode

- API mounts such as everything below /proc, /sys, /dev, which exist from
  earliest boot to latest shutdown.

- All mounts marked as initrd mounts, if we run on the host

- The initrd's private directory /run/initrams that should survive until last
  reboot.

This primarily merges a couple of different exclusion lists into a single
concept.