cgroup: after determining that a cgroup is empty, asynchronously dispatch this

cgroup: after determining that a cgroup is empty, asynchronously dispatch this

This makes sure that if we learn via inotify or another event source
that a cgroup is empty, and we checked that this is indeed the case (as
we might get spurious notifications through inotify, as the inotify
logic through the "cgroups.event" is pretty unspecific and might be
trigger for a variety of reasons), then we'll enqueue a defer event for
it, at a priority lower than SIGCHLD handling, so that we know for sure
that if there's waitid() data for a process we used it before
considering the cgroup empty notification.

Fixes: #6608