units: use `systemctl exit` to kill the user manager (#8648)

units: use `systemctl exit` to kill the user manager (#8648)

Use `systemctl --user --force exit` to implement the systemd-exit
user service.

This removes our dependence on an external `kill` binary and the
concerns about whether they recognize SIGRTMIN+n by name or what their
interpretation of SIGRTMIN is.

Tested: `systemctl --user start systemd-exit.service` kills the
  `systemd --user` instance for my user.