fs-util: add new unlinkat_deallocate() helper

fs-util: add new unlinkat_deallocate() helper

This new helper not only removes a file from a directory but also
ensures its space on disk is deallocated, by either punching a hole over
the full file or truncating the file afterwards if the file's link
counter is 0. This is useful in "vacuuming" algorithms to ensure that
client's can't keep the disk space the vacuuming is supposed to recover
pinned simply by keeping an fd open to it.

(cherry picked from commit 43767d9d5e0ce8923828aebf9154da7af83916f7)